Tuesday, March 30, 2010

CHC’s New Building… continued

So much has been said, and so much speculated about our impending move to Suntec Singapore.

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Sometimes I wonder… would there be as much commotion, if say we announced that we had bought a stake in Singapore Expo instead? I mean, the model’s the same – ownership & license, such that our rental expenses would be defrayed by the dividends and profits we earned. Both are commercial venues which continue to be well-utilized by other conventions and events and meetings.

Maybe it is because I am accounts trained that I find great financial sense in this move? But then again, Nic who is non-accounts trained, can see the logic behind this move the same way I do.

It is a long-term, self-sustaining model. As tenants, we are not subject to the fluctuating building management costs the way an owner would be. And as stakeholders, we are also not committing to be involved in the daily operations, and yet still enjoying the returns on our investment.

We are in this for the long haul.

Paying rental for the next 30, 40 years. Not an amount to be scoffed at. As opposed to finding a solution to stem this expense. Of course, the “traditional” way would be to buy a plot of land and build, but come on, to build a 10-12,000 seater hall? Another mega church in town embarked on a 5,000 seater project, which would cost them $500 million.

Or should we settle for a smaller hall?

Sure. If you are willing to walk a few weekends in our shoes, and in that of our volunteers. At our Jurong West premise, before we moved out we were running 6 English services. SIX. Starting from Friday evenings to Sunday late afternoons. And this is excluding the Children, Chinese, Dialect, JAMs services as well. I am not involved in the running of the services, but as I manage the reception counter, I can tell you… it was a pain. When we had bigger-scale events, services ran up to 9 a weekend! We literally camped at the church! It was super-crazy! Our poor volunteers, who had school or work in the weekdays spent hours and days simply running services all weekend.

So a smaller hall just will not do. Some ask about multiple halls. But this would also burst our constructions costs and manpower, to run and maintain numerous church buildings.

But to me, I think the main bone of contention is the fact that the church signed a Non-Disclosure Agreement, and the fact the entire project would cost us an estimated $310million.

What’s a Non-Disclosure Agreement? Something that is common in the commercial world. Be it for tenders or deals that might prove to be sticky once the details are divulged. Why did we sign the NDA? I think this question should be better posed to Suntec – why did they want us to sign this agreement? Haha! I’ve seen some pretty lame requests on forums, asking that the church rescind on its NDA, or that “certain” details be leaked out, or asking if “so-and-so” and “such-and-such” is covered by the NDA.

Which makes me wonder… Have they read an NDA before? And looked through its clauses? A standard NDA would usually state that confidential information (which should not and cannot be disclosed) is ALL and ANY information with regards to the deal at hand, that the party would not have known if not for the fact it is privy to this deal. It is not a matter of stating what is confidential. It is a catch-all clause. So to me, to ask for details like “How much is CHC’s stake in Suntec?” and “How much rental is CHC paying?” is pretty straightforward. It simply falls under the NDA. But of course this gave rise to conspiracy-theorists.

Nonetheless, I am uber-proud of the church, and of
Pastor Kong and the rest of the pastors. No, not that they are infallible. But that even in their mistakes or weaknesses, they are strong men of God, and never one to shy from their convictions, and people who fear God and not just men’s opinions…

So looking forward to Suntec in March 2011! :) It is a dream we collectively had as a church for the past 5 years… It wasn’t come into abruptly or “unbeknownst” to the members… This is what we’ve been praying for all this time!!!

Monday, March 29, 2010

Mandarin for Children

As a follow up on my earlier post, here’re some of my thoughts on teaching Mandarin to kids, after spending an afternoon with Fiona Walker and Huang Ying of Julia Gabriel Centre for Learning. It was a fun and educational afternoon for all the parents there, I believe!

First off, as with most of everything in life, it’s all about balance.

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How much time should one spend on teaching the child Mandarin?

Given the stress on students nowadays, it is little surprise that parents, educators and government ministers alike are giving their two cents’ on how best to continue with Singapore’s bilingual education system.

If you want your child to be equally bilingual, then as a parent, you need to ensure you spend an equal amount of time on both English and Mandarin. You reap what you sow. So if you don’t devote that much time with your child, then you also need to manage your expectations. How true! Fiona suggests having a “pre-determined” time to converse in Mandarin, be it dinner time or bath time or sleep time… this disciplines the parents to keep to this, as well as reinforces the importance of Mandarin to the child.

How have Nic & I done on this so far? Errr….. Weelllll…. Not very far, I’m afraid. LOL! Well, the saving grace for Jay is the fact he spends a day a week with Nic’s parents, who are only conversant in Mandarin.

Fiona also brought up an oft-overlooked point, that English is and will remain the main mode of teaching, and as such, a good grasp of the English language should not be neglected.

What should we do to instil a love (or least, an interest) in the language? As with anything… keep it fun! Kids play off the parents, and if as parents we can love the language, chances are it will rub off on our kids. Correspondingly, an aversion to it will also be evident to them! Haha!

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Who’s Afraid Of Mandarin?

Me.

Growing up in what was a predominantly English-speaking family gave me many advantages. I enjoyed reading and writing and always scored highly for my English and Eng. Literature classes all the way.

However, it also meant that I struggled with Chinese all the way from Primary to even now as a working adult. The complexity of the Chinese Language. The vocabulary. The strokes of each word. The nuances. The depth. The syntax. The accent. Oh, the headache!

I managed to scrape through all my examinations in part due to MandoPop. I grew to love MandoPop singers, and soon forced myself to memorise the lyrics to their songs. Even to now, I can still remember how to sing these songs! Haha!

Do you remember this “Speak Mandarin Campaign” TV ad? When I first saw it, I was first blown away by these kids… and then I felt like I wanted to go find this hole for my head. *sigh*

From the time I was very young, I could always recall these 华人华语, or Speak Mandarin Campaigns. Do you recall any of these posters?

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Yeap, some are from ancient-of-days, but it is kinda nostalgic to see these!

And while I am thankfully out of the education system and therefore Chinese no longer has a hold on me or my future school life, it has dawned upon me.

It will soon be Jay’s turn. Oh. My. Goodness.

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My innocent little prince. No idea what he is getting into. Hahaha!

Recently, my good friend Ed & his wife Jiahui invited me to attend a Bloggers’ Forum organized by Julia Gabriel Centre of Learning.

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Along with a few other parent-bloggers, we met Fiona Walker, Principal Director and Huang Ying, Head of Mandarin in Julia Gabriel. And one of the topics we chatted on, while munching on some yummy finger sandwiches and sipping some coffee… was on the subject of our kids and Chinese.

“How can we prepare them for Chinese when they get to Primary School?”

“What should we do to instil an interest in Chinese in them?”

“Is there a preset number of hours a day to teach them Chinese?”

“Chinese words/phrases? Or speak in full sentences?”

We learnt many things and *fingers crossed* we’ll be disciplined enough to carry it through! Haha!

Check back and read more about our Chinese Language journey this week!

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The bloggers with Fiona & Huang Ying from Julia Gabriel.

Monday, March 22, 2010

Simplicity of Heart

Came across some awesome quotes recently, and thought of sharing them…

“Making the simple complicated is commonplace; making the complicated simple, awesomely simple, that's creativity” (Charles Mingus)

“Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius—and a lot of courage—to move in the opposite direction.” (E. F. Schumacker)

“Never again will I make the simple into the complex. Something of true value does not become more valuable because it becomes complicated. Experience and conditions come and go; complications arise and fall away, but the simple action of God is eternal in the universe.” (Donald Curtis)

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I think simplicity has been much-maligned. Simple isn’t stupid. Simple isn’t to-be-taken-advantage-of. Simple isn’t about education (or the lack thereof).In our very complicated world, we need to keep our simplicity. Simplicity of thoughts. Simplicity of words. Simplicity of hearts. Simplicity of motives. :)

Sunday, March 21, 2010

What an amazing thing!

Well, if you regularly read my or Jay's blog, you would be well-associated with Bear-bear, Jay's absolute fave stuffed toy.

Since Bear-bear, we have bought him a stuffed tiger, stuffed elephant, stuffed giraffe (on our last trip to Malacca) and other stuffed bears, but none have served to capture Jay's heart like Bear-bear can!

And after so long, Bear-bear is looking a little under the weather.

Oh, in case you're wondering and shuddering over our hygiene level in letting our prince totter around with a stuffed bear all the time... Bear-bear has a body double. Yes, there are TWO identical bears, and my maid washes one each day. There used to be three, but the third accidentally lost its eye and hence, rejected by my discerning son.

And I foolishly thought two bears would be sufficient.

And by the time I wanted to get more....... There was no more to buy!

Gosh I looked high and low, went into almost every Mini-Toon shop (where I got the bears in the first place) and every other shop... For the past year, to no avail.

Until today.

I went to my fave hairdresser for my free hair treatmen session while Nic went for a cut and colour. I finished first, and proceeded to get some coffee. As I went down the escalator, something made me peer into a flower shop with some stuffed bears on display...

And what do u know... The shop had ONE Bear-bear on display! Oh golly... I was so excited I immediately went back up the escalator to buy that stuffed bear. Even if it were $50 I would have willingly forked out the amount. Thankfully... It was just $12.90!

Aah... Think the moral of this story... Mothers have some awesome senses, man! It was a fleeting backward glance into the shop as I travelled down the escalator and still managed to spot the bear amongst all the other bears. Haha! Nic was super impressed when I showed him my treasured buy... And went "You just bought one?" Well, there was only 1. But the owner of the shop agreed to help to check with her supplier if she could get more stock in.

What an awesome Sunday! I can't wait to show my prince his new Bear-bear! :)

(And since Nic was still 'stewing' and waiting for his new hair highlights to set, I decided to do something I've not done for the longest time - blog on my blackberry!)

Sent via BlackBerry from SingTel!

Saturday, March 20, 2010

Anecdotes from School

The playground at Little Big is Jay’s favourite part of school. No doubt about that!

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Everyday when I ask him what he did in school, his very first reply would be: “Playground!”

One of the things I look forward to when I fetch him from school (I mean, apart from seeing my handsome prince, of course), is the informal feedback I will get from his teachers. Yesterday when I went to the school, the principal and his class teacher spoke to me and gave me two very funny anecdotes about Jay’s behaviour in school that made me laugh out loud.

Funny Story #1: The kids were told to go out to the playground and have fun. Jay obediently went along. Barely a minute later, he came back in, declared that “I am very tired” and sat on the steps of the classroom.

Funny Story #2: Once when the kids were all also in the playground, the teacher noticed Jay sitting along on the bench. With Bear-Bear in the far end of the bench, and he looked like he was having a conversation with Bear-bear! The teacher said he even looked very pleased with himself and very contented.

Hahaha! I think it is pretty amazing how kids “grow” into their own personalities, and say and do such funny things in the meantime!

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Linguistics Project

Yunrui and 3 of her project groupmates came over to our place on Sunday afternoon to seek an audience with the prince. Haha…

They wanted to “study” the linguistic abilities of 2-, 3- and 4-year  olds, so Jay was their test subject as well.

It was quite an interesting hour, seeing them trying to cajole Jayvon into speaking and talking to them. I mean, with us, we could hardly get him to stop talking sometimes! Haha!

2 things he did that amazed the group and brought out the ‘oohs’ and ‘aahs’ and ‘soooooooooooo cute’ expressions…

First, they bought a brand new alphabet jigsaw puzzle for Jay (and I think they got the same one for the other 2 “test subjects” previously too) and with just a little help from Mommy, he quickly got the whole puzzle fixed. Then he went on to name all the items on the jigsaw: “Alligator… Bee… Hippopotamus… Tiger… Lion… Owl… Zebra…” They “heard” of his jigsaw puzzle ability, but I guess seeing is really believing! Haha!

They needed to capture 100 words of his vocabulary, and I am pretty sure more than half of Jay’s vocab will be that of animals. Haha!

Oh, and the second thing that amazed the group?

He was able to differentiate between a boy and a girl, and when they asked questions like “What is HE doing?” or “What is SHE holding?” he would be able to answer pretty accurately. The only pronoun I haven’t introduced to him yet would be “it”! So when they showed him a photo of a boy and a cat and  asked “What is IT holding?” he got thrown away by that unfamiliar word.

Well anyway, thanks Rui and the rest… it was a fun afternoon with all you aunties, and Jay totally enjoyed himself & he adored the gift! (He has fixed the puzzle another 3 times to date)…

Friday, March 12, 2010

When Mommy Works Too Much…

Sometimes I forget Jayvon is like a sponge nowadays. And that he can mimick and ape us so scarily well.

At my mom’s house, my “workstation” is usually in front of the TV in the living room.

(I have a Masters in Multitasking, ya see)

And well, while I went to get myself a Mug Root Beer, I returned and found my usual spot hijacked by my two year old.

As he was staring into the screen, his fingers were rapidly moving across the keyboard as well.

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Pardon the fuzzy photos, I was laughing so much at the sight of my serious-looking boy going “Hallo? Ya… ya…” into my Blackberry!

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And in case you are wondering how I look like as I am typing on my Blackberry, this is a pretty clear picture!

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Looks like I need to spend more alone time with my boy! Haha!

Thursday, March 11, 2010

UNDERRATED LOYALTY

I had a long conversation with some friends on quite some time ago. Just chatting under the night sky, with a cup of tea in hand. I am not sure what brought it on, but I started talking about loyalty.

Loyalty’s underrated.

That is the gist of my short and sudden tirade.

That this concept of “Loyalty” seems to be replaced by other lesser concepts, like “Self” or so-called “Healthy Skepticism” (which can be a whole new blog post of mine, man!) or “Transparency”… To me, loving someone and being loyal to that one goes hand in hand. How can you say you love someone without maintaining loyalty?

Napoleon Hill once declared: “Lack of loyalty is one of the major causes of failures in every walk of life.”

Proverbs 3:3 (NLT) says: “Never let loyalty and kindness get away from you! Wear them like a necklace; write them deep within your heart. “

What loyalty am I speaking of?

Loyalty to your spouse, to your family… to love and protect them.

Loyalty to your employers and your employees… to not slander or talk bad about them behind their backs or do things that are to their detriment.

Loyalty to your church… God placed you there for a reason and a purpose. Under that leader, and under that pastor. Be loyal. Love the man of God. Love the Church. Don’t backstab or say silly, frivolous things under the banner of “asking questions”. How old are you? 10? Ask the right questions to the right people in the right environment. I am not advocating blind following. I am advocating HONOR.

Monday, March 08, 2010

Leave Jack Neo Alone

I don’t think I am cut out to be a journalist, especially if I have to cover so-called “current affairs”. Or I really mean, nosy-parkers. Sure you get your scoop and that exclusive, but at what cost? Breaking up a marriage? I once heard a reporter say that they needed to get an “angle” and to merely regurgitate a story would not satisfy their readers. It may not be illegal but it sure smacks of inconsideration. I just hope you never have to come to a place where your personal problem becomes fodder for coffeeshop talk.

With Tiger Woods’ scandal, I felt the media was intense enough.

Now closer to home, I really really feel for Jack. No, I don’t know him, but in our teeny tiny island, this intense media scrutiny is tough for not just Jack, but also his wife and most importantly his children!

Let him be.

Let the couple be able to resolve their issues with enough space to breathe.

Stop with the dirt-digging and mud-slinging.

I find it a little ironic to read about how Singaporeans are disappointed with him. And reading in the same report on how his own wife, the one he let down, was willing to forgive him. Oh, the irony! I am sure to Jack, the most important person he needs forgiveness from is his wife.

Oh, and the outcry for Jack to make a public apology?

Gosh… for what? Why should he apologize publicly for an error he made in his own private life? In my opinion, shouldn’t the person who broke this story be the one to apologize to Jack and the affected parties for dragging their names through the mud?

Strange strange strange… No use calling for blood, let’s be clear-headed and gracious towards them, and allow them room to settle their own issues, please!

Sunday, March 07, 2010

Malacca 2010: The Beach Resort

I hope you’re enjoying my Malacca trip posts so far!

This would be the final one… dedicated to the beach resort we stayed in. Yes, you heard me right. We stayed at Everly Beach Resort, a 25-minute cab ride away from city centre.

Pros: Did you not hear me? BEACH RESORT! Gorgeous scenery, great for a retreat and major R&R.

Cons: Did you not hear me? 25 minutes by cab! Or in monetary terms… RM$25 each way! Sigh…

Reaching there, I was also tempted to book this Resort for my cell group year-end retreat! Haha… (still considering, still considering…)

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Kinda looks like a HDB block ya?

Well, no HDB block has this view…

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The stairs at the bottom of the photo is actually within the compounds of the Resort, which basically meant the beach is literally a stone’s throw away!

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Jay’s favourite part of the Resort – the lobby boasted of Seahorse door knobs!

Here’s some of his poses with the Seahorses…

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The 16 of us stayed in 2 Family Suites, and each suite had 3 bedrooms, a living room, dining room, and even a kitchen!

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Our roomies. Nic, Jay and I took the Master Bedroom, and Nic’s 4 other male colleagues took the other 2 bedrooms.

City Harvest… In the City!

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This was the weekend of THE announcement. When Pastor revealed the new worship location for City Harvest Church.

I think the very moment the members knew where this place would be, there was probably a collective intake of breath!

Suntec Convention Centre

Winner of Best Business Venue Experience award 2009.

Host to APEC leaders and dignitaries…

And from March 2011, CHC will now have its worship services in this gorgeous place.

Till now, the forums and internet are rife with talk about the stake CHC now has in Suntec… It is such a fantastic deal for us… as we are not only able to lease this place for our weekend services, we are now also stakeholders and able to earn dividends whenever the Convention centre is used for external events. This definitely eases our financial burdens.

I am so proud of Pastor, and so glad to be in this great church. After years of enduring travel to Jurong West, it is GREAT to finally be able to have church literally a stone’s throw away! Woohoo!!! It’s gonna be an exciting few months, till the BIG MOVE!

Saturday, March 06, 2010

Malacca 2010: Food Glorious Food!

Even before I made it to Malacca, I was regaled with the yummylicious food available in Malacca. Gosh… the amount of food I “had” to try ranged from the chicken rice balls, durian chendol, nonya food, local coffee, pineapple tarts…

It was a case of too many meals, too little time!

We basically only had 24 hours in the land.

When we reached the Mahtoka Shopping Centre, after we disembarked, we had little choice due to hunger and the fact we were lugging around our huge bags, that we ended up at A&W. Yeap… Fast food!

I had such high hopes!

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Quite disappointing, save for the A&W Root Beer Float, which was totally yummy!

Well, the upside was that my Prince was in a good enough mood to be photographed by me though! Despite the fact we had just got off a 4-hour bus ride!

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My sunshine! :)

Food-wise, we had a proper Peranakan dinner that night, and yummy, it was great!

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The menu came in this old-style cover.

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Even the table cloth was this gorgeous flora hue.

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Given the typically spicy Peranakan food, we ordered Fried Bee Hoon for Jay. It was the first dish to come, and the fragrant smell of this simple yet nicely-cooked dish boded well for the rest of the meal! Jay lapped this up!

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Assam Prawns. Heavenly.

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Fried Fish with Sambal Belachan.

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Otah-otah.

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Some kind of chicken stew.

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No Nonya meal is complete without Chap Chye.

By evening, Jay’s “I’ll be a good, well-behaved boy” quota had depleted, and he became one whiney, irritable toddler. Nevertheless, we still managed to enjoy the dinner! Cost of dinner: RM195 for a 7-course dinner for 9 people. Pretty affordable!

Though we didn’t manage to try the much-lauded Ipoh Coffee, we still managed to grab a cuppa back in the hotel, for that much-needed caffeine fix.

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Rest and relax… Aah…

Friday, March 05, 2010

Malacca 2010: Making It There

It was our first trip to Malacca, and boy o boy, we were looking forward to it!

It was a gorgeous 4-hour long bus ride, with loads of green trees and blue skies along the way!

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Even this sight that is never-seen-before in Singapore, as all our cabling happens underground!

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Jay had a blast as well, watching loads of DVDs, snacking and playing with Mommy & Daddy throughout the ride.

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Halfway through, Jay got his hands on my camera, and he’s not a half-bad cameraman. Check out his self-portraits!

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He turned the camera on himself, said “Cheeeez!” and managed to click the right buttons! Haha!

He is growing to be a whiz on the camera – and even managed to find the “Colour Accent” function for Mommy! Haha! So of course, I used it for some of the photos…

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Coming up… the food glorious food of Malacca!

Thursday, March 04, 2010

Parenting 101: Surviving a Long Bus Ride

Over the weekend, I joined Nic & his colleagues for their annual company retreat, and the destination was Malacca!

I was really quite excited, cos Wen & JerB were telling me about, well, the FOOD of that place! It wasn’t a very long trip, and therefore not that many meals to justify stuffing our faces, but still, it was a pretty fulfilling trip. Watch out for more “instalments” to my Malacca trip!

Here, in preparation for that food and fun, we first had to consider the biggest obstacle. The coach ride up to Malacca. The four hour bus trip. Each way.

Phew!

Just the thought was enough to send that shudder down our spines.

Thankfully, it went pretty smoothly. Of course, there were some whine-y moments and some heartstopping ones when we thought he would poop (No toilets! How could we change him?) Think only a handful of Nic’s colleagues are married and even the married ones didn’t have kids, so I believe it was an eye-opener for them all (for better or for worse… Hahaha!)

Well, through the trip, I learnt one thing really made the difference: Preparation. Ensuring you have enough things to occupy the toddler for the entire trip. And make sure you space the distractions out, so give each its' maximum spotlight!

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First line of defence: Daddy’s very nice (and not cheap) watch.

After 15 minutes, that novelty soon ran out. So it was out with #2: The book.

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This was amusing for all of the 3 minutes. My son’s not a Nemo fan, apparently.

But we still had other tricks up our sleeves.

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FOOD! Ah… this is all-important! And this is one of his favourite snacks – Calbee Prawn Crackers.

But the trophy for Holding-Longest-Attention-Span definitely goes to…

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The Portable DVD Player!

Jay was entertained by Bear in the Big Blue House, Hi-5, and even a trailer DVD of BabyTV! A Must-Have for any trip!

Wednesday, March 03, 2010

2 Lies & A Truth

Over the weekend, I went for Nic’s company retreat – all the way to sunny Malacca! Will blog more about that soon. (I do still need to prepare for my AGM, ya know! Haha!)

Anyhoooo, on Sunday night, the bunch of them gathered in our little suite, and we play many fun games… one was “2 Lies and A Truth” – each of us had to write 3 sentences about ourselves, with 2 of them being lies and 1 being the truth.

Seemingly, I had the “obvious” advantage seeing how no one (I mean, apart from Nic of course) knew me. Some of his female colleagues even lamented that they knew so much about each other this game was a foregone conclusion.

Well, I always love a challenge so I decided to write three sentences that would stump even my very dear hubby. Whom I know for more than 10 years. Whom I’ve dated since 2000. Whom I married in 2007, and had a baby boy with.

And yes, I even managed to stump him! Woohoo!

See if you can guess which is the true sentence!

#1: I love all kinds of fruits, especially rambutans.

#2: I’ve coloured my hair all sorts of colours before, including green.

#3: I’ve been to quite a few countries in the past, including Korea.

Tell me your guesses! It doesn’t matter if you’re wrong… I mean, even Nic got it wrong. Hahaa!