Monday, June 28, 2010

The iPhone 4

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This is one of those pretty things that tug at my heart-strings.

Starhub and M1 has learnt their previous lesson well, having lost a number of their customers to Singtel, as it was the first to launch the iphone in the market previously. Now, an “early registration” is available on both Starhub and M1.

I am blackberrified. I do still kinda love my blackberry.

But pretty things rock my world. And after my iPad, I am starting to lurve Apple!

Oh, and speaking of my iPad, I am super “suaku” (read: ignoramus!), but I just bought and downloaded Plants vs Zombies. It is so fun playing it on my iPad.

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And something about shooting down mindless zombies that resonate so with my life nowadays. Thinking how to trip them up, slow them down, take them out! I think I would love the HD version of this app, but at US$9.99 it is too expensive even for MY standards!! Nic says the iPad has become my gamePad. Haha! But I love it so. :)

Saturday, June 26, 2010

Introduction to Charities 101

I am really not a scholar. I have left my books back at university years ago. Nic is the smart one, with the near-perfect scores in his thesis and other written assignments and his super-logical analysis of the situation. Me? Not nearly so.

But one area of, how shall we call it, public education that is quite lacking in Singapore is the area of charities. What are charities? What is the difference between a charity and an IPC (institute of public character)? Should charities be tax-exempt? I have read many articles on this matter with each giving his or her own well-thought-through but yet still erroneous analysis.

I tried to explain this in my usual rambling roundabout way before. I see now it is a bit TOO rambling. So let me try to break it down for you. :)

What is a charity?

First, you must understand that charity is a noun, but there are several meanings to it. Dictionary.com defines this word as:

1) generous actions or donations to aid the poor, ill, or helpless, 2) something given to a person or persons in need, 3) a charitable act or work, 4) a charitable fund, foundation, or institution, 5) benevolent feeling, esp. toward those in need or in disfavor, 6) leniency in judging others; forbearance, 7) Christian love; agape.

So first off, there is a distinction. Charity is not just doing good works, it also means a charitable organization. And therein lies the difference.

What is a charitable organization?

According to the wiki, a charitable organization is a type of non-profit organization (NPO). The term is relatively general and can technically refer to a public charity (also called "charitable foundation," "public foundation" or simply "foundation") or a private foundation. It differs from other types of NPOs in that its focus is centered around goals of a general philanthropic nature (e.g. charitable, educational, religious, or other activities serving the public interest or common good).

The Charities Unit is Singapore also specifies the kinds of specific charitable objects, and they are in line with those listed above.

So should a religious organization (such as a church, a temple or a mosque) be considered a charitable organization? The answer is an OBVIOUS YES! And all around the world, this is the commonly and generally accepted norm and practice. Such religious organizations, being set up for the purpose of religion, would naturally be expected to spend most of its income on the religion, be it rental of halls for its worship services, winning the lost or other such expenses.

I have seen some people shake their heads and wag that proverbial finger at the fact that City Harvest Church spends “only” S$2.9 million in their last financial year on local and community charity work, not realizing that #1, this is probably more spending that a lot of MNCs, #2, as a religious charity, they have no obligation to spend anything on other charities. Of course, most large religious charities have an outlet to bless the community outside the four walls of their church or temple, but why the tsk-tsking over S$2.9 million? Sure, some say this is a small figure compared to the church income of more than $40 million over the same financial period. But please. Give me a break. If I earn say $40,000 a year, and I give $2,900 to charity, that to me is a pretty significant sum (about 7% of income)! Would you scoff at me? Would you ask me why only $2,900? Would you tell me to cut back on my shopping or eating out to give more? If you did, I would probably ask you to take a long hike. Hahaha!

Please don’t make the mistake of looking at how much a charitable organization GIVES to judge whether or not it should be a charity. Charitable status is dependent upon the purpose of that organization. A sports association is also considered a charity. Take any sports association in Singapore (the Netball Association, the Badminton Association) – most are charitable organizations, and if you check their accounts, I am pretty sure that the majority of their expenses are for the purposes of the sport. Not to donate to any other charity. Not to give to the poor. But does that make them non-charities? OF COURSE NOT. The fact that they spend their income on the purposes for which they are set up proves that they are charities.

Should a religious charity be tax-exempt?

This is a much-maligned whipping horse. Let me help to set the record straight.

A charity is tax-exempt. That means it need not pay taxes on the donations received.

A charity is not an IPC (institute of public character). A charity is an organization set up for a charitable object (as mentioned above, religion being one acceptable such object).

According to the Charities Portal, “For an institution/fund to be an IPC, its activities must be beneficial to the community in Singapore as a whole, and not confined to sectional interests or group of persons based on race, creed, belief or religion, unless otherwise approved by the Minister.”

So most religious organizations can not be an IPC, for the simple fact that its activities are mainly confined to its members and congregations, and therefore does not meet the above requirement.

But see, that is okay. A charity need not be an IPC. It does not impact the charity much. The ones impacted are the donors. Donations to IPCs are tax-deductible, donations to charities are not.

So if a charity is tax-exempt, there is no reason to exclude religious charities from this. Why is there a need to do so anyway? The advancement of religion is an accepted charitable object.

How should charities spend their money?

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Or in other words… are commercial ventures by charities allowed?

This is a pretty sticky area. Just my two cents. If the commercial venture is in line with the charity’s vision and purpose, and the profits earned are channelled back to the charity for its use… what is the issue here?

A key word bandied around of late is the term “social enterprises.” More and more, people are recognizing that while the purpose of that organization remains for the public good, it uses and applies market-based strategies and business models for self-funding. Nothing wrong with that. In fact, if anything, it is a wise use of the organization’s finances, because a continual income stream assures of longevity in their business of doing good.

 

Ok, end of my long verbal outburst. I hope this has helped you to understand the matter of charities a bit more! ;)

Oh, and borrowing a line from a well-versed friend of mine…

“Opinions expressed here are my own and do not reflect the views of any organisation I may represent inadvertently.”

Thursday, June 24, 2010

A ‘Scoop of Art’!

A couple of days back, I took Jayvon for a stroll to the Marine Parade Community Library – and we discovered our latest haunt!

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A small little cafe called “Scoop of Art”, situated just outside the library.

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This was our scoop of that day… Oreo Gelato! Simply yummy. Jay was raving about this for days.

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It was simply decorated, but an interesting aspect of this little cafe is its emphasis on the arts – hence the name “scoop of art”!

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Placemats were this doodling piece, and crayons were provided at each table as well.

With such yummy gelato, friendly staff and a nice environment, this is going to be a common hangout place for us!

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Sing me a song, Mommy…

Now that World Cup fever is well underway in our household, it means that Jay either has to sleep at 930PM sharp. Or Mommy takes over bed duties.

I consider it my wifely duties.

Give my man his space with the TV.

Side note: Even in between the matches, he is contented to leave the TV tuned to the World Cup channel. I know, it cost him an exorbitant $70+ (no thanks to Starhub). But maybe I can catch a few episodes of Desperate Housewives or NCIS? Just a thought, dear.

Making Jay sleep is a test of my vocal prowess.

Mommy is one mean storytelling machine. Jack & the beanstalk? Goldilocks & the 3 bears? Been there, done that, spun the tale!

Now, his favourite phrase is…

Sing me a song, Mommy.

It would be easier if he allowed me to sing any song.

Just the Animal ABC song.

I am happy Jay loves animals. I really do.

But singing this every single night may be a bit too much to bear. He would even tell me off if I try to skip the lion roars or the wolf howls. Haha! He knows how to sing this entire song too. Of cos the lyrics may be a bit garbled and pronunciation off, but listen carefully and you can hear him go…

A is for the alligator, with a mouth so big.
B is for the beaver, who likes to build and dig.
C is for the camel, with a hump upon its back.
D is for the duck who always goes quack-quack-quack-quack.
Quack, quack, quack, quack.
E is for the elephant, the biggest one is he.
F is for the fox he’s just as smart as he can be.
G is for giraffes, with a neck that’s oh-so-long.
H for hippopotamus, so big and fat and strong.
Du-du-du-du.
I is for the ibex, he’s the cousin to the goat BLEEEH
J is for the jaguar, with spots upon its cat.
K for kangaroo, he’s from the land down under.
L is for the lion king, his roar is just like thunder.
ROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOAAAARRRRRRRR!
M is for the monkey, he’s the cutest little thing.
N is for the nightingale, who always likes to sing.
O is for the ostrich, he hides his head in the sand.
P is for the pelican, his bill holds more than his belly can.
Du-du-du-du.
Q is for the quail who has a little bitty tail.
R is for the rabbit, he’s swifter than a gale.
S is for the skunk, to tease him is to fumble.
T is for the tiger, he’s the terror of the jungle.
GRRRRROOOOOWWWWLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL…
U is for the urno, an animal from Brazil.
V is for the vulture, always waiting for the kill (AAAH!)
W for wolf, a mean and heartless cur.
X is for the xerus with a tail of tuffly fur.
Du-du-du-du.
Just 2 more letters and the story will be told.
Y is for yellowtail, a fish that’s painted gold.
Just 1 more letter, and class will be dismissed,
Z is for the zebra, the last one on the list!

Ta-da! I always thought about penning this down, and I’m glad I had the chance too now. These lyrics were honed through hundreds of times of listening through the video, and as the volume isn’t the clearest, this is the best we’ve got. The letters S and X were the hardest for us to decipher. If your kid has a soft spot for animals, I promise this video is a sure-winner!

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

The story of two animals

There once was a little Boy Jay
who loved his animals.

One day, two animals came into his life.
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And oh, how the little Boy loved them so.

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“Could I play with them?” asked Mommy.

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“They’re busy,” answered the Boy.

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And so the friendship was forged.

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The kind of bond that lasts forever. :)

Monday, June 21, 2010

Hilarious search results!

I am a faithful fan of Nuffnang, and one of the features of this blog advertising network is that it would list the keywords that people would visit my blog on.

A common search phrase is “Kong Hee & Sun Ho Divorce.”

I addressed this rumour here.

In case you didn’t get it.

It. Is. Just. A. Rumour.

Spread by bored tabloidists, fueled by nothing less than an active imagination. This rumour was started some time back, in the wake of the recent City Harvest saga, it seems to be dug up by some tabloids.

Oh, but apart from this that draws traffic to my blog, another keyword that popped up today made me laugh. Out loud.

“Kong Hee drives a Porsche”

Oh my goodness.

In the words of my sister… Epic fail. Haha! Just in case you happened to chance upon this blog on this keyword search. Let me assure you once again.

It. Is. STILL. Just. A. Rumour.

The thing about juicy gossip is that it is juicy, and such fodder for office watercooler talk or coffeeship chatter. But a falsehood is still a falsehood is a falsehood. :)

High up on the Flyer!

It only comes once a year. The day that daddies the world over get lauded. And enjoy their share of the limelight, their day in the sun!

To celebrate, we decided to go for a ride on the Singapore Flyer. The last time Nic & I went, Jay was barely a year old, and could hardly appreciate it. This time, he had much more fun, coupled with time with his grandparents!

We first took a stroll along the small open area, where he spotted some…

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… turtles!

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It boded well for the rest of the evening.

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And it was a fun time with Gong Gong and Po Po too!

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Inside the cabin, he soon found a comfortable spot.

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As we breathed in the gorgeous Singapore skyline.

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View of the Marina Bay Integrated Resorts.

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Happy father’s day to all the daddies out there! ;)

And a special shout-out to Nic… for being such a solid hubby and daddy.

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Yeah, Bear Bear loves Daddy dearly too! ;)

Friday, June 18, 2010

That’s why he’s my pastor…

I’ve recently been thinking about the phrase “Courage under fire.”

So much has been said about the entire City Harvest investigation, and late last night, Pastor Kong put up his new blog post entitled rather aptly, “Reflections.”

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In it, Pastor wrote: “My relationship with God is and always has been at the centre of my life. During times of adversity, I have always taken comfort in one thing that I know to be true: I have honestly served God and shepherded His people to the best of my abilities. It matters most to me that my account to God is absolute and I can say without hesitation that I have done my best to glorify His name and build His church. Loving God is my deepest passion and it is my greatest privilege to serve Him with all I have.

I am proud to be a member of this great church, and proud to have such a man as my pastor. He is someone who didn’t just preach an inspiring message. He is someone that has lived an inspiring life. His deep love for God is so evident, it inspires us all to love God more and serve Him more. I remember the last session that Pastor preached during the Asia Conference, he said something like “maybe I don’t say it enough, but as your pastor, I really love all of you.” I think this is probably best said flipped.We don’t say it enough. As members of this church, we really love Pastor Kong. For his leadership. His guidance. His love for God.

Maybe it is the way we run our services, with bright lights and loud music and the contemporary way we dress, that gives a lot of people the impression that as a church we aren’t very “deep.” Sure, there aren’t any organs or harps in our church services. We dress sharply, each to our best ability (and budget). The term “Sunday best” was first coined to refer to dressing up for church, remember? So sometimes our spiritual depth as a church may be overlooked or even misunderstood.

When Pastor Phil came last weekend to encourage the church, he said that whenever there is a shaking (or a trial), whatever can be shaken away will be shaken but that which remains will be strengthened. Personally, while this may be an emotionally trying period (it sure doesn’t feel good to see so much slurs against your pastor), but yet it is also a time for us to seek after the Lord all the more.

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

My iPad. Yes, it is here!

My gorgeous new toy.

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Thanks to my dearest hubby for traveling all the way to Admiralty to pick it up from Esther after his night shift.

Syncing it now, and I can’t wait to try it out!

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But the screensaver almost gave me a heart-attack. Do you see a short white line in the photo above? Well, I thought that (and other similar short white lines) were scratches!!! On my beautiful NEW iPad?!

Then… Oh. Just part of the design of the wallpaper.

*Blush*

I am no techie, but the reason I decided to get the iPad is…

Because I love pretty things.

And pretty doesn’t get prettier than this beauty.

Of cos it is also because I don’t want to lug my heavy laptop out on the weekends, and yet I can still get some work done (if need be)!

But really. It is the beauty of the iPad.

One app Nic absolutely adores is Angry Birds. I totally am horrid at it. But he is reeeeeeal good, and he was imagining playing Angry Birds on a full iPad-size slate.

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Erm. Not much difference. Haha! I need to get the iPad version of Angry Birds! :P

Well, I am looking forward to fiddling more with my new toy.

My iPad…

Is almost here.

Almost. Almost. Almost.

Thanks to my good friend Esther who lugged it back from the States for me. My 64GB 3G iPad! Woohoo!

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My SIM card has even been *ahem* resized in anticipation of it! :P

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Sat In The Hippo!

I know, you’re probably thinking of this…

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Yes, we sat on one of those before.

This was something a bit different, though.

Same animal… Different motor. Haha!

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What a cutie eh? And the hippo’s not too bad-looking itself.

After service, my cell group members decided to go over to the airport for dinner, and lo and behold as we got off at the carpark, situated at a far end of the carpark was a huge play area for children! When Jay saw the floats, he was beside himself with joy!

Check out some of the other animal floats.

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Honestly, how cute are they?! I don’t blame Jay for getting so excited! Haha!

It wasn’t a cheap ride… S$8 for 4 rounds of the carpark “track”, but hey, I will probably not bring him there again so it is well-worth the time taken. Too bad I only have my blackberry with me. It would have been much nicer photos otherwise!

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Of course, Jay wanted to take the hippo ride alone. That’s the wonderful thing about kids. No such thing as “impossible” to them! Of course I had to tell him Mommies are a needful part of any ride and he reluctantly “let” me sit with him. If you ask him, he would tell you that HE was the one driving the hippo that day! ;)

For parents: If you happen to be at Changi Airport Terminal Three, check this place out. It’s at Basement 2 (same level as the foodcourt) and just turn right once you get to the carpark. It opens daily from 12 p.m. to 10 p.m. and apart from these animal float rides, there are also a lot of other rides for the litl’ ones!

Monday, June 14, 2010

Parent-Teacher Conference

It was an excruciating wait.

From the time we received the e-mail from Jay’s teacher, to inform us of the upcoming Parent-Teacher Conference.

One month ago. One month of wondering and pondering. One month of waiting with anticipation and trepidation.

It’s not so much learning how your kid did at school. It’s whether or not we as parents taught him well. Did we do a good job? Have we screwed up too much? Is the damage reversible? Normal questions like that.

I don’t think my parents ever went to any such Parent-Teacher Conference when I was a kid. No one judged them then. Oh, but parents of today… Gosh. It’s like being hauled into the principal’s office about some unacceptable behaviour.

At 8.29 a.m. on last Saturday, Nic & I dutifully entered the gates of Little Big. Left Jayvon at home, just as the teacher had asked (cos it wouldn’t be convenient talking about him in front of him). Or talking bad about our parenting skills in front of the test subject.

Miss Yun tried to make us feel at ease. Served drinks and all. Sat down beside the computer and Miss Yun started talking. Cue the nervousness and shallow breathing. I don’t think I do very well in such situations. It may be initial nerves, but I think after a few more of such PTCs I’d probably be a pro. I think. I hope. Doesn’t bode well for my “super-mom” persona to be perspiring at a PTC, ya know.

Miss Yun obviously took the effort in preparing for this meeting. Photographs of Jay in action, interacting with his friends, and how he was in class. She even brought up the Mother’s Day gift, which he singlehandedly designed, proudly telling the teacher that “Mommy like pink circles” before selecting the circles for my card and decided that the “giant cookie” is for me, and the “small cookies” are for himself.

And how Jay would, in a typical boy fashion, get into scuffles with his two good friends in class, Nicolas and Angelo (resulting in some small scratches and injuries from time to time). Daddy was cool (too cool, if you ask me) about that, and said he’d be more concerned if Jay didn’t get into fights.

The only area Miss Yun pointed out was in his shyness when it came to strangers. He would find it hard to enter into a play situation with kids he is unfamiliar with, and so this is an aspect to work on.

One area of relief… after all my fussing about learning Mandarin, and Jay’s underexposure to this language from young, we were pleasantly surprised (ok, shell-shocked might be the better adjective) when the Chinese teacher told us that Jay has picked up the language fast, and able to say short Chinese phrases like “谢谢老师”(thank you, teacher) and "我还要饼干.” (I’d like to have more biscuits.) Oh. My. Goodness. Nic & I stared at each other incredulously when we heard that. You mean he can?!? Our Jayvon? That is when I know for sure, God is gracious towards us. Haha!

All in all, it was a fun session. Learnt a lot more about Jay, and also allowed the teacher to know a lot more about us and our parenting style (relaxed is still a style, you know…).

We took back some of Jay’s artpieces from school, and he was so thrilled to see them when we got back home!

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Each artpiece had a small explanation on what was the lesson being taught, as well as personal anecdotes on the child’s behaviour! It was so fun to read!

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Sunday, June 13, 2010

Indoor Fun

With the recent rainy weather, it has forced us to stay indoors a lot more. As fanatical as Jay is over his animals and puzzles, some reprieve and distraction is much needed at times.

Enter the humble Aqua Doodle.

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Which allow kids to create art by using a pen filled with water. That’s right. Non-toxic water. Which equates to non-permanent-scribbles on walls or floor or hands or feet.

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He had such fun with it!

And when he got bored with it (after like 5 minutes), his attention soon wandered to other places.

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Like sticking the pen in one eye.

If he did this with a regular marker, you’d hear my screams bouncing off the walls.

But see, water only (That’s Jayvon’s phrase).

It’s cool. I’m cool.

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And doodling on his leg.

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And his bed.

Thankfully there is no washing off to do! :) Great toy for a mischievous boy!

Saturday, June 12, 2010

A “Despite Of” Love

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Love is something that is at once the easiest thing in the world to do.

And at the same time the hardest.

From the time of the “I Do” at the wedding aisle, a man and a woman commits to each other. For better or worse. For richer or poorer. In sickness and in health. It is a “despite of” kind of love and commitment.

Despite of my own feelings, whether I feel like it or not, love means sticking to my commitment.

Despite of the circumstances, love means continually believing and continually praying.

Love never fails.

Even when you don’t know what to do or how to react, but as the decision is made to love… things will fall into place.

So much has been written about the CHC saga. And I know many questions are raised. Half of which we will not know the answers to. While this may perplex many, answers aren’t needed in my commitment to my church. I don’t need to know everything now. I don’t need to have all the answers now. I don’t need to have the explanations now. I don’t need to figure it all out now. I don’t need to point fingers now. I don’t.

Some time back, I went through quite an emotional period. Not knowing why the matter happened. Not understanding why it had to happen to me. Even now, thinking about it literally takes my breath away in sadness.

So you see, when things don’t go well in your loved one’s life, you don’t need to know or understand everything all at once. You just need to love. Be around. Be supportive. Show your solidarity. Be the friend you should be.

In this time of my church’s life, I want to do that too. Stand. Pray. Believe. And most importantly, LOVE.

Friday, June 11, 2010

Blogger Template Designer

I was super thrilled to see this notice when I logged into my Blogger account.

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See it?

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New template designer!

I fiddled with it for the past 5 minutes, and ta-da, I present to you my NEW blog design!

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Nothing really fancy, but doesn’t it look so much nicer? Try it out! Real simple to use!

Chocolately Goodness

Chocolate is delicious.

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Real yummy.

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Makes you just wanna go right in and take a big bite.

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Yum.

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Disclaimer: No other donut was hurt in the making of this blog entry. Except that chocolate one from J&Co.